What To Teach Your Daughter About Choosing A Man

You teach your daughter about choosing a man by showing her one: how you talk to her mother, how you handle no, how you treat people who cannot promote you.

She will date someone. The question is whether she has a pattern to recognize, or only movies and barkada stories.

What should you say out loud?

Kind is not boring. Loud is not leadership. A man who hates her friends for no reason is already campaigning against her world. Money without gentleness is just a nicer cage.

What should she watch?

How he drives when he is late. How he speaks about his mother. How he apologizes. How he treats a "hindi." Those are the adult tests.

What if you failed some of those tests?

Say so. "I was sharp when I should have been quiet. Do not copy that." A father who confesses teaches better than a father who poses.

Related reading: How To Talk To Your Son About Being A Man.

Frequently asked questions

Is this anti-boy?
No. It is pro-safety. Boys who will be good men can pass these tests.

What if she is young?
Use small stories now. Save dating rules for later. The tone you use with her mother is already the curriculum.