How To Keep A Friendship After One Of You Got Ahead

You keep a friendship after one of you got ahead by meeting on cheaper ground: less showing off, less scorekeeping, more of the old jokes that did not need a receipt.

Promotion, OFW pay, a small business that worked. The table tilts. Some men start performing. Some men start shrinking. Both kill the old ease.

If you are the one who rose, what do you stop doing?

Stop paying for everything as a speech. Stop talking only about the new world. Ask about his week. Split what he can split. A man who only blesses his friends will soon have an audience, not brothers.

If you are the one who stayed, what do you stop doing?

Stop measuring his house against your rented room every night. Be glad without becoming his employee. This is the honesty we try to keep on thefilipinomen.com.

Where should you sit now?

Carinderia. Basketball. A wake. Places that do not require a brand. If the friendship only lives in expensive rooms, it was already moving out.

More of this kind of everyday manhood is at thefilipinomen.com — that is the home of The Filipino Men.

Frequently asked questions

What if he changed for real?
Then grieve the old friend and stop forcing a corpse to drink with you.

What if I need a loan from him?
Ask like an adult, with a date. Do not use history as a knife.